“Get married soon as your biological clock is ticking.” Yes, you heard that right, and that was the distasteful comment that I received right in the morning, while talking to someone who was desperately trying to show-off his over pouring concern for me. I was immensely amused by the fact that he was more worried about my ‘impending’ menopause, which is actually way too far from visibility right now, than my happiness and comfort being with a man. I told him that I was 'touched' by his overgrowing concern for my womanhood, and gave him a satisfactory reply that he needn’t rack his brains too much about femininity as I am sufficiently matured and experienced enough to make may own decisions and execute it perfectly.
I was a bit taken aback by the remark, but kept thinking about the reason why an unmarried woman who has crossed her thirties is always the target for such mock and ridicule. If a woman health is what the so called “well wisher” folks are worried about, the same applies to men too, which no one dares to mention. This is nothing but the sickening mentality of the age-old, rotten, male domination, which is yet to be eradicated completely from our superficially modern society. Although I give deaf ears to such gender targeting comments and hollow remarks, sometimes they start getting on my nerves, urging me to shout loud to make them shut their nasty mouth that keeps fouling the ambiance around me with such sickening comments.
The other day I went to our temple, which is a stone throw away from my home. Till recently, I was regular with temple visits and prayers, but slowly had to reduce the numbers, as I started getting suffocated amid the presence of women who couldn’t spare themselves from showing-off their nauseating sympathy towards the “single, unmarried, and lonely” me. So of them even showed their generosity by bringing me marriage proposals from widowers who are double my age, and are on the verge of losing the so called “reproductive capability” that these women keep reminding me, and other women, who live life on their own terms. Even yesterday was no different, as I soon met a few sympathizers right at the temple door, even before getting in. My tongue, although kept reciting hymns, took a break and started chanting “s**** and f****”, to get rid of the anger that was building-up inside me. I soon left the place saying hurriedly, saying an averagely sensible excuse.
Marriage, I think, is not just about conceiving or getting a licenced agreement to enjoy the physical pleasures that every human being craves for. I am not saying that they are unimportant in life, as I know very well that they do matter, or rather have pivotal roles. But above them is necessity of having a “real” man in life, an honest and well behaved person with commendable self esteem, and immense respect for women, and all those must needed qualities that would make life worth living. If men lack such basic qualities that make them worth calling “men”, I don’t think there is any need to fall for such deformed guys who may only need a person who pamper their manly ego, and satisfy their needs in bed. Just to tell you an example of this; I was talking to a friend of mine, who was so interestingly talking about the extramarital affairs that are happening these days. When I called them the most sinful, the lust, he ferociously disagreed with me saying it is never a crime, but rather a basic bodily need, and the need of the hour. I was shocked to hear him say this. Here is a man who recently married his girl friend of twelve years is talking about the so called ‘advantages’ extra marital relations. I left the place soon, while he kept wondering what made me irritated. Such sick men who live only for bodily happiness should in fact never be blessed with loving wives, who are unaware of their husbands’ lustful thoughts. Such sick men not only ruin themselves, but even mess up the lives of many others around them.
I am not unhappy that I am not married, and I would never ever regret for not making a less than average choice of man. I am not confined to any biological predestination, but look more in to those many sublime qualities that a man “must” have, because I am not just looking for someone to deflower me and remain as my boss throughout my life, but, I need a “real man” to love and respect me the way I am, and if I don’t get any one, I would prefer remaining single and happy, rather than frantically trying to get hooked for the sake of it, just because my biological clock is ticking, or the so called fake well-wishers keep showering their unending sympathy, or because I would never be able find the 'complete gratification' as a woman. So, let the clock keep ticking, as I strongly feel that I will meet ‘him’ very much before the time ends. Will be happy if I can, but will never regret if I can’t!
Why people fear ageing?
Is old-age a dreadful dream?
More than any of those fearsome diseases, dreadful nightmares, monstrous animals and equally dangerous humans that lurk around, what people fear most these days is their age, the innate fear of growing old and getting wrinkles all over their body. I have more than a handful reasons to say this, as I’ve witnessed many incidents where people speak of their age with immense agony and tremble that are often clearly visible. Their heart skips a beat when they are asked about their age, and that’s more than funny to watch. Does that sound a bit cruel? But, I do find it funny to see how people who frantically try their best to hide their age, or put up the mask of false youthfulness that would flake off any moment. But yet they cling on to those fragile masks and cover themselves, in their anxious effort to hide their real age. Be it man or woman, a person who crosses thirty finds it a bit hard to disclose their age, or to reveal that nature is slowly draining off the youthfulness and vigor from their body.
When looked upon carefully, I think men are equally, perhaps more scared of getting aged, and not only women, but men too equally lean-on to the costly artificialities, in order to fake youthfulness. When women fear of losing their looks, I keep wondering about the fears that men have, when wrinkles start showing up and when grey hairs heartlessly dominate the luscious black ones. I think they would have insecurities about their manliness, I mean by all means, as men would be more than scared about the loss of their libido and virility; rather than the flawless looks that adorned them during their youth. Sometimes I keep wondering whether they are scared of the fact that they are nearing death. But that’s just stupidity, as death has hardly anything to do with age. Death is inevitable, but can happen to anyone at any point of time, no matter whether that person is young or old. So it should not trigger a sense of fear or insecurity in one’s mind, and initiate the fear of getting aged. Like women, growing older may also make men worry about an uncertain future filled with endless list of ailments and bodily worries. Another factor that they would be scared about will be their financial stability. I would call this lack of planning and meticulousness in life. If a person lives fifty years in ultimate luxury and spend the rest of the life in pennilessness, I would call him a fool, as he had enough to save for his old age, but carelessly splurged it without any planning.
Is balding a nightmare that scares men from getting old? I don’t think hair loss would be a matter of fear these days, as more than a couple of our iconic male film stars , who are in their twenties and thirties, are almost bald, and yet have a huge fan following. Going grey or baldness should not scare one anymore, as both start showing up much early these days, perhaps due to the unhealthy lifestyle and food habits that we are forced to follow. To be frank, I find men with a little of grey hair attractive and seductive. Such men, although very rare in number, are the testimonies of the fact that cosmetic fears have hardly anything to do with personality.
The muscle sag, or pot belly in plain language, that visibly shows off its arrival, is not just the sign of old age, as I have seen many young men, especially those nerdy techies, with more than pot sized bellies. Pot belly is never inevitable, as long as one is ready to work out regularly and maintain a fit and healthy body, and for this reason belly size would never become the trademark of old age.
But not very man is bald, impotent, or penniless, which means if you life carefully planned, and look after yourself, while continuing to have fun, you can definitely age gracefully and not scarily.
Anti aging creams, scrubs, and other beauty products that guarantee to fight the natural aging process have almost monopolized the market these days, and both men and women are so crazily addicted to them, thus living under the false notion that they would hinder the natural process of growth and ageing. What are they really up to? Are they really foolish enough to believe the promises of the cosmetic companies, or are they trying to remain so, forcefully forgetting the fact that ageing can never be stopped, no matter whatever they try and do. Why do they do it? Is it just because of the fear that they would soon be deprived of the luminous youth that they've been proud of all these years? The thought of finding one selves with wrinkles, in grey hair, is very evident in such people, as they desperately lean on cosmetics, surgeries, and whatever possible to retain the luminosity of their skin.
Ageing is a natural process, and will keep happening, no matter however hard we try to avoid it. So why not age gracefully, rather than being frantic, depressed, and worried about it?Ageing also means clearing out all the mess and messy people and chiseling down to the very few that you really need in your life, that are important, that really matter.
Age is what you want it to be. It’s not just a number that should keep scaring you. It should be the satisfaction that you've lived every moment of life to the fullest, and are happy walking forward in life. The desperateness to walk backwards only shows the lack of courage and strength of will.
More than any of those fearsome diseases, dreadful nightmares, monstrous animals and equally dangerous humans that lurk around, what people fear most these days is their age, the innate fear of growing old and getting wrinkles all over their body. I have more than a handful reasons to say this, as I’ve witnessed many incidents where people speak of their age with immense agony and tremble that are often clearly visible. Their heart skips a beat when they are asked about their age, and that’s more than funny to watch. Does that sound a bit cruel? But, I do find it funny to see how people who frantically try their best to hide their age, or put up the mask of false youthfulness that would flake off any moment. But yet they cling on to those fragile masks and cover themselves, in their anxious effort to hide their real age. Be it man or woman, a person who crosses thirty finds it a bit hard to disclose their age, or to reveal that nature is slowly draining off the youthfulness and vigor from their body.
When looked upon carefully, I think men are equally, perhaps more scared of getting aged, and not only women, but men too equally lean-on to the costly artificialities, in order to fake youthfulness. When women fear of losing their looks, I keep wondering about the fears that men have, when wrinkles start showing up and when grey hairs heartlessly dominate the luscious black ones. I think they would have insecurities about their manliness, I mean by all means, as men would be more than scared about the loss of their libido and virility; rather than the flawless looks that adorned them during their youth. Sometimes I keep wondering whether they are scared of the fact that they are nearing death. But that’s just stupidity, as death has hardly anything to do with age. Death is inevitable, but can happen to anyone at any point of time, no matter whether that person is young or old. So it should not trigger a sense of fear or insecurity in one’s mind, and initiate the fear of getting aged. Like women, growing older may also make men worry about an uncertain future filled with endless list of ailments and bodily worries. Another factor that they would be scared about will be their financial stability. I would call this lack of planning and meticulousness in life. If a person lives fifty years in ultimate luxury and spend the rest of the life in pennilessness, I would call him a fool, as he had enough to save for his old age, but carelessly splurged it without any planning.
Is balding a nightmare that scares men from getting old? I don’t think hair loss would be a matter of fear these days, as more than a couple of our iconic male film stars , who are in their twenties and thirties, are almost bald, and yet have a huge fan following. Going grey or baldness should not scare one anymore, as both start showing up much early these days, perhaps due to the unhealthy lifestyle and food habits that we are forced to follow. To be frank, I find men with a little of grey hair attractive and seductive. Such men, although very rare in number, are the testimonies of the fact that cosmetic fears have hardly anything to do with personality.
The muscle sag, or pot belly in plain language, that visibly shows off its arrival, is not just the sign of old age, as I have seen many young men, especially those nerdy techies, with more than pot sized bellies. Pot belly is never inevitable, as long as one is ready to work out regularly and maintain a fit and healthy body, and for this reason belly size would never become the trademark of old age.
But not very man is bald, impotent, or penniless, which means if you life carefully planned, and look after yourself, while continuing to have fun, you can definitely age gracefully and not scarily.
Anti aging creams, scrubs, and other beauty products that guarantee to fight the natural aging process have almost monopolized the market these days, and both men and women are so crazily addicted to them, thus living under the false notion that they would hinder the natural process of growth and ageing. What are they really up to? Are they really foolish enough to believe the promises of the cosmetic companies, or are they trying to remain so, forcefully forgetting the fact that ageing can never be stopped, no matter whatever they try and do. Why do they do it? Is it just because of the fear that they would soon be deprived of the luminous youth that they've been proud of all these years? The thought of finding one selves with wrinkles, in grey hair, is very evident in such people, as they desperately lean on cosmetics, surgeries, and whatever possible to retain the luminosity of their skin.
Ageing is a natural process, and will keep happening, no matter however hard we try to avoid it. So why not age gracefully, rather than being frantic, depressed, and worried about it?Ageing also means clearing out all the mess and messy people and chiseling down to the very few that you really need in your life, that are important, that really matter.
Age is what you want it to be. It’s not just a number that should keep scaring you. It should be the satisfaction that you've lived every moment of life to the fullest, and are happy walking forward in life. The desperateness to walk backwards only shows the lack of courage and strength of will.
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