Accessorizing in the right way

That bright and noticeable diamond studded earring on his left ear was what I noticed first, or rather immensely amused about, while meeting him amid some serious discussions about the new project. A twenty something, spotlessly clean shaven, and conservatively dressed computer programmer with a completely mismatching woman’s accessory, noticeably stapled on his right earlobe, that very funny sight of seeing him wearing a huge womanly earring gave me some moments of absolute hilarity.

It was funny to watch him walk around with an extremely feminine face, and that crystal earrings that augmented his womanly appearance. I had this sudden urge to laugh my lungs off but prevented myself from doing that right in front of him, as I never wanted to hurt his girly choice that completely disfigured his overall appearance. So I left the place soon, but couldn’t forget his new look, which kept me wondering about the reason why a man of his age would need such an out-of-the place accessory, firmly fitted on his ear, only to create some unwanted femininity to mask his raw, sensual, god-gifted masculinity, something that everyone would love and admire. To put it shortly, why on earth should a man wear such huge earrings, and make him look more womanish than manly.

Call it the newest fashion statement and I would vehemently disagree, as fashion has to always go as per the gender of a person, and for men, such huge and glittery earrings are totally a mismatch, and will look totally 'un-masculine'. I know that an earring is never a benchmark to identify the sexual orientation of a person, but if someone is robbed of his mannish looks, gives him a style statement that disfigures his gender and identity, I don’t think he should take pains to pierce his ears and clip that sparkling accessory on his earlobe, with the very false notion that it would make him more handsome. It won’t, and it would never do that! On the contrary ,it will only adds-in a noticeable amount of feminineness on his face, thus unknowingly making him a hot topic of ridicule before others. It may be a matter of taste, but let me state something plainly before I go further; I really don’t like seeing men in such shiny and earrings. I find it more than disgusting and have always kept wondering why men are so fascinated towards earrings, and if they love that supposedly women’s accessory, they should love our anklets and bangles as well rite? If they trying to make themselves look sexier by attaching those sparkling pieces of jewellery to their earlobes, I would call it downright craziness as a huge earring clipped on to his ear, or sometimes both ears, would never make a man sexier, but will only pronounce his doubts and insecurities about his appearance and sexuality. I know that some people do it as a part of their religious customs, but those are often very small and hard to notice ones, which has nothing to do with changing a man’s looks. I hate those long and bigger ones that today’s metroseexual self-proclaimed fashionistas wear. If they are desperately hoping for an edgier look by doing this, they would get in on most of the occasions, but will be on the wrong way most of the times.

I know that many of you many disagree with my thoughts and to all those women who feel men look good-looking and sexy in earrings, here’s my question: If you feel that men are handsome in earrings, will you feel the same if they wear a pair of bangles or anklets, or even seeing your man dressing up like you? Earrings on men may not matter as long as they are short and barely discernible but when they turn out to be long, shimmering and noticeable, it just rips off one’s entire manly looks that are natural and god-gifted. Because, it’s all about outfitting oneself sensibly and attractively (not in the wrong way), and not just blindly follow a trend, irrespective of what it can do to one’s appearance and personality.

Why I love 'people watching'

It’s yet another weekend and as always I hardly have anything to be excited about, other than the very usual must-do stuffs. So if you ask me about my hopes for the 48 long hours to come, I really won’t be jumping out of joy and giving you long list of weekend excitements that you would love to hear. It’s just not because I am a boring person who keeps aloof from the fun and happiness around, and stays within a self created world. I am very much like you all, but find myself very much uncomfortable amid crowd and noises. So I make sure not to turn up at places that are jam packed or noisy, but love taking long evening walks, and that too quite alone. Does that sound a bit uninteresting?

Actually it is not, because I love those few minutes or sometimes an hour, when I get plentiful of those enjoyable moments to watch people around, without getting noticed. I love watching different people and their activities and find it so enjoyable as long as they don’t notice me staring at them. And yes, I do know a good number of tactics to watch people without getting visible on their radar, to put it shortly, by remaining incognito. Naturalistic observation power, without being intruding and attention-grabbing, it comes out of practice and will stay within you if you have passion to retain those good observing qualities. I am not saying that I am an expert in it, but I am not too bad either. So whether I go for walks or sit in the coffee shop next to my hostel, finding multitudes of multifarious people is the best free time activity that I would love to indulge in, and that too preferably on weekends when I get more diverse people, when compared to weekdays, and can have a location from where I don’t look obtrusive and conspicuous.

If you ask me the reason why I love doing this, I do have a lot of reasons to say, but the most important ones include the opportunity to learn how different people are- sometimes weird and sometimes wonderful, their notoriously different behavior, relationship interactions, body language, as well as their attitude in public. People are sometimes so different that I often get numerous moments of fun and excitement watching them doing some downright crazy things in public, the kind of stuffs that you can’t even dare to imagine even in those wildest dreams of yours. To tell you one such incident, once I was in a restaurant that’s a bit far from my place, close to a lake. I was there to treat myself with a scrumptious lunch, and took a seat close to the window. There was middle aged man sitting on the opposite side, along with three women. It took me a couple of minutes to realize that one among them was his wife, because he was keen on showering his attention and praise on the other two women, while his wife was quiet all the time. It was more than piteous watching her gloomy face, while her husband was literally on cloud nine with the two other women around.

Here’s another incident! Once I was on my way to the hostel, and saw this couple, both teens, so weirdly indulging in PDA as if they are in their bedroom, with no one around. It was one of the trashiest sights that I have ever seen, and preventing myself from witnessing more embarrassments, I just fled the very next moment.
Telling about the weirdest of those doesn't mean I haven’t had the chances to be a part of some priceless moments. Yes I’ve had, not one but several. But as always, the wider ones just come up so quickly, perhaps to keep reminding that some people can be so stupid and strange in public.

This secret little pastime of mine can literally whisk me away for hours together without getting caught and accused for staring at strangers. Because people are just unpredictable, people watching is such a wondrous pastime that one can have, plus a good and FREE learning experience too! All that you need to do is leave your prejudices behind learn how to observe without staring insultingly.